The true
answer to the problem of stress is spiritualitynot psychology. Stress is an integral
part of the essential injury-healing-injury cycle of life. Both injury and healing are
spontaneous phenomena. Healing is not an intellectual function, because the mind cannot
order healing in injured tissues. The thinking mindthe cortical monkey in
autoregulation languageendlessly recycles past misery. And when that is not enough,
the mind precycles the fear of future misery. The cortical monkey thrives on doubt. It
embellishes fear. Relentless recycling of past pain or feared, future suffering can drive
body tissues into rebellions, but it cannot coax rebellious tissues to function in healthy
ways.
Psychology is no substitute for spirituality. The ancient notion
of the mind-body-spirit trio is this: Whatever can be experienced with the physical senses
or perceived by the mind cannot be spiritual. For the spiritual to be discrete from the
body and the mind, it must be beyond the reach of either. One cannot reach the spiritual
by seeing, smelling or hearingor by superior thinking. Indeed, if that were true,
there would be no need for the trio. The popular press is infatuated with the mind-body
connection! Has it lost sight, then, of the third element?
How does one go about searching for the spiritual? One doesn't.
The spiritual involves surrendering in silence to the larger presence
that surrounds and permeates each of us. Why is silence essential? Because sights, smells
and other sensory perceptions are aspects of the physical bodyand language is the
mind's turf. Clever thinking, alas, is just that: thinking. And thinking, as I write
above, is not spiritual. Consequently, a thinking mind cannot be banished with clever
words.
In my book, What Do Lions Know About Stress,
I suggest some simple ways to escape the tyranny of the thinking mindthe relentless
clutter of the cortical monkey. What that monkey cannot cope with is the silent energy of
the spiritual. Specifically, I make two suggestions that I have found to be clinically
useful: meditation with the silence of a candle flame in winter and with the silence of a
stone during summer. For further details about these two methods. In essence, with these
simple approaches to meditative silence, one lets either the flame of a candle or the
mellow color of a stone to lead him to perceive one's essential link with the larger
presence. These simple approaches are usually far more rewardingand
revealingthan an elaborate ritual. The Holy Quran puts it thusly: Paradise is nearer
to you than the thongs of your sandal.